When you observe yourself, without judging, automatically something inside you changes even if you don’t notice it. A deep breath, a feeling of ease might arise when you understand your body and your emotions; Information to help you gain awareness is where I like to start because it’s the root for you to develop your own resources to manage tough situations and so increase your confidence. Therefore, I leave the to-do list and steps to the end. Sometimes I don’t give any because I know that your unconscious mind will give you clues on what to do.
Impatience for me goes hand in hand with expectations. Impatience to get healthy, impatience to receive that text, to get that job, to have a relationship. You are expecting that something happens now, that your situation changes. You have made up your mind and have a belief that the train has to follow a particular trail, and it doesn’t.
But only you have created that vision in your mind, and that affects the feelings inside you. It’s a reflexion on the unconscious mirror that you do not accept where you are at the moment. You do not accept your current situation. And it is ok not to be content with your life situation, but you have to ask yourself if you understand it.
Eckhart Tolle explains that it is not about accepting your general situation but accepting the moment you’re at in that situation. They are two different things.
Observe these key relations:
Impatience and anxiety, are linked;
anxiety and instant gratification, linked;
impatience and immaturity, linked;
immaturity and instant gratification, linked.
Have you observed or felt any of these?
Tackle one and you will automatically easy the rest.
The meaning of instant gratification is wanting something that will give you pleasure, now, how you want it and the way you want it. This behaviour is naturally seen in kids.
Immaturity, wanting to have it all and not sacrifice any option.
If I analyse the roots of my impatience, I would say it’s my inner child crying to fulfil its frustrated child-stage of play. As a little girl, my family had good times and bad times; and in those hard moments, I instinctively behaved and took charge of responsibilities that an adult would have, leaving no space for play and no time for feeling the freedom of irresponsibility. As an adult, and after an almost death experience, I’m aware of my limited time here, and that brings me the benefit of mindfulness practice, but unconsciously, I also feel the urge to enjoy as most as I can before I go. Also part of the existential anxiety of not knowing what are we here for and after feeling the void of emptiness once you stop doing, adds to my feeling of anxiety.
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Why do you want courage?
To be able to jump outside the comfort zone.
Why do you want to jump outside the comfort zone?
Because there, is where change happens.
How Do I Train My Courage Muscle?
Start easy. Have cold showers in the morning. I wake up, have my morning routine of my green tea with coconut oil, I journal, meditate and yoga–in no specific order. Then, before breakfast, I shower starting with comfy warm water; And at the end, I let the cold out. I breathe, shake, I count to three and then splash! Screaming helps too.
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One of the mysteries of life that I find most fascinating is the existence of Paradoxes.
If you have already read my posts about it, you will know how observing the Paradox helped me in my journey to healing. For me, understanding it is about accepting that I can not understand it, and be ok with it. It’s about surrendering to the higher powers of the universe and about having faith.
In the past five years, I have been practising martial arts as a hobby. First I started with Karate, then Kung Fu. Being slightly immersed in the Chinese art of battle was more about getting to know myself rather than learning to be aggressive with others. I found it magical to understand myself as a form of energy connected with nature and how I could be in control of that energy called Chi.
So I would like to share a snippet of The Samura Paradox of Death and a quote from Mark Twain, which I love and I think complements divinely with my previous posts. Hope you enjoy it as much as I do.
The Samurai Paradox of Death
“The Samurai embraced the soldiers-paradox: If you fear death, you will die. They were brave, as all warriors must be. The basic neurological fact that fear causes your brain to shut down your ability to do parasympathetic tasks (like complex sword fighting techniques, or snatching) was intuitively understood by ancient Samurai. However, they weren’t just interested in surviving. Bravery and Courage are not the same thing. To be brave is to do something despite the fact that you are frightened. To show courage is to do something that scares you precisely because you know you must – because it is the right thing to do. So, courage is a kind of bravery, but not always the other way around. What makes the Samurai a particularly unique brand of warrior was their sense of total righteousness and how that impacted their sense of courage. The soldiers-paradox, when correctly understood and applied, will keep you alive (or will – at least – make that more likely
The samurai were said to possess a resolute self-belief, so much so that they believed they could accomplish anything. Certainly, when confronting a battle scenario and the prospect of death, self- belief would be paramount. In the 19th and 20th centuries, the spirit of ‘shinnen’ helped repair a post war Japan and turn it into the world’s second largest economy today . We must also possess self-belief, particularly when confronting the obstacles (and sometimes discouraging statistics) that are part of startup life. In Japanese, the 2nd code of Bushido is “Yuuki” which translate as Courage – the quality of a confident character not to be afraid or intimidated easily but without being incautious or inconsiderate. It is the ability to do things which one finds frightening.”
“Courage is not the absence of fear. It is acting in spite of it.” ~ Mark Twain
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