When you observe yourself, without judging, automatically something inside you changes even if you don’t notice it. A deep breath, a feeling of ease might arise when you understand your body and your emotions; Information to help you gain awareness is where I like to start because it’s the root for you to develop your own resources to manage tough situations and so increase your confidence. Therefore, I leave the to-do list and steps to the end. Sometimes I don’t give any because I know that your unconscious mind will give you clues on what to do.

Impatience for me goes hand in hand with expectations. Impatience to get healthy, impatience to receive that text, to get that job, to have a relationship. You are expecting that something happens now, that your situation changes. You have made up your mind and have a belief that the train has to follow a particular trail, and it doesn’t.

But only you have created that vision in your mind, and that affects the feelings inside you. It’s a reflexion on the unconscious mirror that you do not accept where you are at the moment. You do not accept your current situation. And it is ok not to be content with your life situation, but you have to ask yourself if you understand it.
Eckhart Tolle explains that it is not about accepting your general situation but accepting the moment you’re at in that situation. They are two different things.

Observe these key relations:

Impatience and anxiety, are linked;
anxiety and instant gratification, linked;
impatience and immaturity, linked;
immaturity and instant gratification, linked.

Have you observed or felt any of these?
Tackle one and you will automatically easy the rest.

The meaning of instant gratification is wanting something that will give you pleasure, now, how you want it and the way you want it. This behaviour is naturally seen in kids.

Immaturity, wanting to have it all and not sacrifice any option.

If I analyse the roots of my impatience, I would say it’s my inner child crying to fulfil its frustrated child-stage of play. As a little girl, my family had good times and bad times; and in those hard moments, I instinctively behaved and took charge of responsibilities that an adult would have, leaving no space for play and no time for feeling the freedom of irresponsibility. As an adult, and after an almost death experience, I’m aware of my limited time here, and that brings me the benefit of mindfulness practice, but unconsciously, I also feel the urge to enjoy as most as I can before I go. Also part of the existential anxiety of not knowing what are we here for and after feeling the void of emptiness once you stop doing, adds to my feeling of anxiety.